Strikingly honest
Jennifer Lopez has never shied away from her spotlight, but recently, the 56-year-old superstar has been unusually candid about her love life, and it’s stirred reactions from her past.
In a revealing interview with Howard Stern earlier this month, Lopez reflected on the challenges of maintaining love under the public eye.
Speaking about her relationships, the singer admitted that fame has often complicated her personal life.
“I wanted to share my life with someone, I want someone to be there when I’m having my big, important moments on the red carpet, I want someone to be there when… we’re going to the store, whatever it is,” she said.
When Stern asked if she had ever “truly been loved,” Lopez’s answer was strikingly honest:
“No… What I learned, it’s not that I’m not lovable, it’s that they’re not capable… They don’t have it in them.”
She added: “My former partners gave me what they had, they gave me all of it, every time… and I didn’t love myself during those times either.”
Ojani’s response
Lopez’s candid comments quickly drew a reaction from her first husband, Ojani Noa. The 51-year-old former model, who was married to Lopez from 1997 to 1998, shared a heated Instagram message.
“Let me just say, stop putting us down. Stop putting me down with your victim card,” Noa wrote.
“The problem [is] not us. Not me. The problem [is] you. [You’re] the one who couldn’t keep it in your pants. You have been ‘loved’ [a] few times. You have been married 4 times. And have had countless relationships in between. You had good relationships… Me for example.”
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Noa continued, claiming loyalty and support during their marriage:
“I’m an amazing, loving person, great human being. Honest, faithful to you, never lied, never [misbehaved], never cheated on you… I was good to you. I’m too good of a [man] for you.”
He also accused Lopez of choosing fame and fortune over their marriage:
“I left my family and career behind to help you pursue your early ambitions… Tell the truth for once. Let the people know you are the problem. You should be embarrassed, ashamed of yourself.”
Affleck’s confession
Lopez, meanwhile, is also processing the end of her most recent marriage.
She and Ben Affleck rekindled their early-2000s romance, tying the knot in Las Vegas in 2022, only for Lopez to file for divorce in August 2025, citing irreconcilable differences. Affleck, 52, has remained mostly quiet but spoke briefly to GQ in March, calling the split “embarrassing” and “vulnerable.”
“There’s no scandal, no soap opera, no intrigue,” Affleck said. “It’s just a story about people trying to figure out their lives… there was no big event, no dramatic moment. It’s more like a couples therapy session.”
He added that he avoided sharing too many details because “it feels vulnerable” and admitted that both he and Lopez were navigating their own internal struggles during the relationship.
Lopez, who just wrapped her This Is Me… Live tour, treated fans to a mix of music and personal reflections. During a stop in Bilbao, Spain, she even paused mid-performance to respond to a fan’s proposal with wit and charm.
“I think I’m done with that,” she said with a smile. “Yeah, I tried that a few times.
Lopez’s Relationship History:
- Ojani Noa (1997–1998): First marriage, ended after 11 months.
- Cris Judd (2001–2003): Divorced after two years.
- Marc Anthony (2004–2014): Her longest marriage; shares twins Emme and Max.
- Ben Affleck (2022–2025): Rekindled early romance; divorced citing irreconcilable differences.
